Anticipatory Grief:
This grief takes place when you are aware that you will suffer an imminent loss, but it hasn’t taken place yet.
The difference between this and other types of grief is that in anticipatory grief the feelings tend to be much more ambivalent and unstable. Since the person is still around, the mourners may alternate between closeness and distance. They want to feel the presence of that person for the last time. But at the same time, they fear the attachment that this generates. In these cases, the best thing to do is express your feelings openly and directly with the person that will be departing.
The difference between this and other types of grief is that in anticipatory grief the feelings tend to be much more ambivalent and unstable. Since the person is still around, the mourners may alternate between closeness and distance. They want to feel the presence of that person for the last time. But at the same time, they fear the attachment that this generates. In these cases, the best thing to do is express your feelings openly and directly with the person that will be departing.
Absent Grief
This is a kind of grief in which the person affected blocks their feelings. They try to act as if nothing is happening. In fact, if it is brought up, they don’t give it any more importance than any other issue.
In this type of case, what’s being applied is a mechanism of denial. The impact is so strong, that the person doesn’t feel capable of confronting it. That’s why they focus on other aspects of their life. The problem is that the hidden sorrow always returns. Be it in the form of irritability, anxiety or a physical illness, among others.
In this type of case, what’s being applied is a mechanism of denial. The impact is so strong, that the person doesn’t feel capable of confronting it. That’s why they focus on other aspects of their life. The problem is that the hidden sorrow always returns. Be it in the form of irritability, anxiety or a physical illness, among others.
Chronic Grief
Chronic grief presents itself when someone fails to work through the loss of a loved one. One way or another, they refuse to accept what has happened. Instead, they focus obsessively on keeping alive the memory of the person that has departed. They end up paralyzing their life and constantly maintaining a stance of pain.
People with depressive tendencies are more likely to settle into this type of grief, which can also turn into a way of life. It is characterized by anxiety, sadness and guilt, as well as a sensation of impotence and disillusion. This type of grief requires professional help.
People with depressive tendencies are more likely to settle into this type of grief, which can also turn into a way of life. It is characterized by anxiety, sadness and guilt, as well as a sensation of impotence and disillusion. This type of grief requires professional help.
Delayed Grief
This is, usually, an effect of absent grief. Although at first the person tries to ignore their pain, after a while, it reemerges with great force and maybe in the least expected moment. Sometimes several years can even go by before this type of mourning begins.
It could also happen that someone can’t experience grief in the moment in which they experience the loss, due to special conditions. For example, a demanding work commitment or a pressing family situation. The postponed pain appears later on and presents some complications since, now, it has to be experienced alone.
It could also happen that someone can’t experience grief in the moment in which they experience the loss, due to special conditions. For example, a demanding work commitment or a pressing family situation. The postponed pain appears later on and presents some complications since, now, it has to be experienced alone.
Inhibited Grief
This type of grief is experienced by people who have great difficulty expressing their feelings. In the case of children, for example, who can’t seem to put into words everything that this situation represents. In many occasions, adults ignore their pain and don’t help them overcome it. Adults simply think that “children just don’t understand”.
The process of mourning is also inhibited in the case of people with some kind of cognitive disability. Or in situations such as a father or mother, who try to stay strong in order to not affect their kids. Or simply, when someone is very reserved and doesn’t have the opportunity to talk about what they are feeling. In any case, the inhibition translates into obsessions, constant depression, anxiety, etc.
The process of mourning is also inhibited in the case of people with some kind of cognitive disability. Or in situations such as a father or mother, who try to stay strong in order to not affect their kids. Or simply, when someone is very reserved and doesn’t have the opportunity to talk about what they are feeling. In any case, the inhibition translates into obsessions, constant depression, anxiety, etc.
Unauthorized Grief
In unauthorized grief, the environment or the person’s surroundings manifest a rejection towards the pain they are experiencing. Sooner or later, others always try to overrule grief at some point because, for someone who hasn’t lived through this suffering, what the mourner should do is let go and move on with their life.
However, there are specific situations in which mourning is openly disowned from the very beginning… Sometimes this can also apply to the death of a pet. Since it generates a great deal of pain, but others will tend to disqualify that type of suffering.
However, there are specific situations in which mourning is openly disowned from the very beginning… Sometimes this can also apply to the death of a pet. Since it generates a great deal of pain, but others will tend to disqualify that type of suffering.
List created from: "The 6 Types Of Grief — Exploring Your Mind". Exploring Your Mind, 2019, https://exploringyourmind.com/6-types-grief/.
